- Finding out we were pregnant with Sia (and of course, her arrival 3 weeks ago!)
- I competed in my 1st Muay Thai fight (after 4 months of starting!)
- We launched our brand new RNT app (exclusive for our members)
- Went a whole year vegan (and being the fittest I’ve ever been)
- Crossed a few cool milestones: 5 years in business, 3100+ transformations, 330+ podcast episodes
- Spent 3+ months travelling, including 2x month long stints with Chandni for the 1st time (we were never able to do this when she worked corporate!)
1. Make your parents your best friends, and don’t wait ~30 years to tell them you love them (real talk).
I remember before getting married in 2021 I had something burning inside me I needed to do before tying the knot:
Telling my parents I loved them out loud.
The night before the wedding I wrote a letter and read it out loud to my parents in a moment I’ll never forget.
I’ve always wanted to make my parents proud with my accomplishments, but what I never realised until my late 20s was all they ever wanted was to see me happy.
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learnt the importance of making your parents your best friends. Nothing trumps the wholesome love of parents.
In fact, it’s not until Sia was born a few weeks ago did I realise the true meaning of a mother’s love. Not only in Chandni, but in how my mum has been since she’s come into our lives.
Ironically, the 30 remaining harsh truths I’m about to share have all been pointed out to me at some point or another in the past decade by both my parents.
2. Real friends mourn and celebrate with you without ever comparing or keeping score. Most are temporary acquaintances for a season in life.
3. Every man (and woman) needs time with their men (and women), every single week. We all need friends who call out our BS.
4. What you do, who you’re with and where you live are the 3 biggest decisions you’ll make.
5. Know exactly what you want in your partner. Then work to be worthy of that calibre of partner, put yourself out there, and never compromise your standards.
- Values their health (but not a fitness freak)
- Family oriented
- Growth driven (personally and professionally)
6. If you have the right woman, she will always test to see what you’re made of. She does this because she loves you, and wants to see you grow.
7. Your definition of success can be whatever you want it to be. The discovery starts with knowing (and accepting) your core values.
8. The faster you can decide what your enough is, the faster you can enjoy the bliss and beauty of the present moment.
“I donate it all to charity.”
9. Success is a daily feeling you can choose to experience, not a tangible destination that keeps on moving.
10. Gratitude is hard to acknowledge but easy to find. Ruminating on the past is the death of happiness.
- “I wish I did this…”
- “What if this happened that way…”
- “If I said/did this, this scenario would have happened”
11. Learn to say yes and accept everything. Always think, “it is what it is”.
12. No one actually cares what you’re doing. They’re too obsessed with their own lives to care about you.
13. Most productivity tips (e.g. fancy morning routines) are cleverly disguised forms of procrastination.
- Long walk
- Gratitude text
14. Paradise is no alarms, long walks in the park, writing, thinking time, clear calendars, hard exercise and deep conversation with loved ones.
15. Double down on the activities you do that make you lose track of time. Delegate or delete everything else.
16. You can only earn the right to work smart after you work hard. The game then changes to maximising your output from the least number of inputs.
17. There’s never going to be a perfect time to have children. Your team at work is not your family. Don’t build your career and forget to build a life.
18. Real wealth is going for a haircut on a Monday afternoon. Optimise for time flexibility and autonomy as fast as possible.
19. Your bank account is one of many scorecards in life, and it may or may not be a sign of your progress. Make sure you pick which scorecards matter.
20. Money is best used to buy back time, create leverage and simplify your life. Having money won’t make you happy but it will stop you thinking about a lack of it.
21. Fulfilling your potential is not just about work. It’s selflessly giving as much as you can to the few areas which matter most.
22. If it’s not criminal or critical, don’t waste time sweating it. Most stressful situations can be reframed with a question: “will this matter in 5 years?”
- Will this matter in 5 years?
- What would the older version of me say?
- Is there anything I can do about it?
23. Comparison kills dreams. The time and energy you spend thinking about others will destroy your ability to realise your own magic.
24. Over a long enough time, karma will always settle the score. But don’t live waiting or expecting it to happen, just keep doing the right thing.
25. Confidence is contextual. The only path to improving it is consistent repetition and competency. You can’t read or think your way to confidence.
26. Your gut never lies. But we like to bury issues with alcohol, drugs, food, etc. Any time our vices go up, something needs to change.
27. The ability to be alone is a superpower few will want to explore. A simple 30 min unplugged walk can work wonders for mental health.
28. Prioritise recharge time. Burnout or the desire to quit comes from neglecting our internal energy at the expense of pursuing external goals.
29. There’s no perfect diet or workout programme. Only core principles to manipulate around your lifestyle and preferences.
- Should I eat chicken or turkey?
- Is 6am or 7am the optimal time for breakfast?
- Are 5 or 6 sets better?