Most people hit rock bottom quietly. They mask it with parties, work, and quick fixes.
For Jay, rock bottom came in the form of late-night binges, empty share bags of chocolate in the car, and a moment of clarity at the family dinner table when he wasn’t giving his kids a good example to follow.
“I was eating to block out pain. Not hunger. Pain. I wanted to literally collapse and not wake up again.”
This is the story of how a 37-year-old father of two went from drowning in food addiction, depression, and an identity crisis to reclaiming his body, health, and self-respect in under 12 months.
When Food Became the Escape
Jay’s life had always been a pendulum: from “the fat boy” nickname as a child, to national kickboxing competitions as a teen, to doubling his weight in just two years after falling into the wrong crowd at 18.
By his 30s, food had become more than fuel. It became the drug.
“I was constantly chasing food like an addict chases alcohol. When it wore off, I needed more.”
He would eat entire share bags of Maltesers, Minstrels, and Revels in the car before even making it home from the supermarket.
“I was meal-prepping for my kids while raiding their snack drawers. I’d buy the snacks for them and finish them myself.”
The Breaking Point
Three moments forced Jay to confront the truth.
- A health scare.
Doctors told him his cholesterol and visceral fat were so dangerously high he was on track for a heart attack or stroke within 10 years. - Fatherhood hypocrisy.
“I told my kids to eat their blueberries while I was shoving down a pizza. I looked at myself and thought, ‘this isn’t the dad I need to be.’” - The darkest admission.
“When I was eating in those situations, I was trying to kill myself with food.”
It was no longer about aesthetics, summer shreds, or festive cycles. It was about survival.
Jay had done 12-week cuts and seasonal transformations for over a decade.
He could always lose 15–20kg in three months, then gain it all back. What he couldn’t build was sustainability.
“I was tired of doing the same cycle again and again. What stood out to me about RNT was that it wasn’t an eight or twelve-week program. It was a lifestyle solution. That’s exactly what I needed.”
The structure, accountability, and long-term vision hit differently. This time, he wasn’t chasing abs. He was chasing a new identity.
The Identity Shift
This transformation happened inside, not just outside.
“A lot of my transformation has been internal, not external. The body is a byproduct.”
He became ruthlessly practical.
Winter garage gym? No insulation, freezing cold… yet he trained anyway.
Rain? He bought a walking pad.
No freezer space? He bought another freezer.
“Any obstacle to succeed, I’ll break that barrier down.”
And he learned boundaries. For years, he’d coached others for free, pouring into their cups while his ran dry. Now, he unapologetically poured into his own.
“I realised my cup was empty. I had to stop putting others first. That’s why I’m a different person today.”
The Results That Money Can’t Buy
The numbers tell part of the story:
- Weight went down from 97kg to 60kg.
- Cholesterol and visceral fat were reversed to healthy levels.
- For the first time since his teenage years, he went below the “safe” weight he used to yo-yo around.
But the real victory was the peace he felt.
“I enjoy peace now. I walk without headphones. I read. I sit in quiet. I don’t need to escape myself anymore.”
“No one’s coming to save you. You have to take action. Ask for help. Don’t wait 17 years like I did. The best thing I ever did was join and do it for myself, not to prove anyone wrong.”
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