1. Self awareness is a muscle
The practice of self-awareness is essentially to think about your thinking. It’s about diving deep and analysing how you think, feel and behave. It’s learning to think about certain situations and actions you’ve taken, whether it be in the moment or retrospectively, and investigating.
As it builds, it begins to teach you that you can only control what you can control. You can’t control what others are thinking, how they act, or what values they hold.
I typically finish everyday by reflecting on what’s happened, thinking what I could have done better and seeing where I can improve for the future.
These reflections can cause a great deal of frustration if you’re not careful. While easier said than done, I try to mitigate these frustrations by remembering that I can only control my input, not the outcome.
2. We’re all driven by different desires
But I do have some ideas. Anyone who knows me knows that I’m not materialistic in the slightest. New things just don’t excite me, so I’ll never be that guy who says he’s working to buy this specific supercar, or those pair of trainers. I know plenty of people who are driven like that, and that’s fine, but it isn’t me.
and striving to be known as ‘the best’.
3. Go all in or nothing
4. There’s a dip in everything
5. Helping others go from zero to one
My friends and family are my greatest strength. I feel lucky to have such a strong inner circle around me that are always on hand when the chips are down, and also there to enjoy the good things in life too.
This year it’s been really cool helping two of my best friends bring their ideas to life, turn a profit, and create something that has the potential to have tremendous impact
The first has been Jai Doshi’s 1-1 CFA coaching business, Catalyst Beta (www.catalystbeta.com), that provides tailored tuition to help CFA candidates pass the hardest set of financial exams in the world. I remember when Jai rang me up to tell me he’d achieved his charter at the youngest age possible. I was on the way to the gym at the time, and I can recall the goose bumps upon receiving the news. Seeing how friends like him work themselves into the ground to achieve something remarkable – and pursue through their own dip, always inspires me to push harder.
The second has been the birth of Bilal Khan’s Identity Chats (@TweetsByBilal). This has been a breath of fresh air, and truly remarkable to watch unravel. We’re now two (ultra-successful) events deep, with plans to expand rapidly to help bring his message to the world. The potential to invite conversation between like-minded people and create real societal change is exciting.
6. Your network is your net worth
I now know the power of creating connections with people of all backgrounds and professions, and have learnt to not be stuck in the fitness industry bubble that’s all too easy to be consumed by.
Surrounding myself with many of these high level entrepreneurs and business owners on a weekly basis has also encouraged me to step my own game up, and to never rest on my laurels.
7. What is your identity?
During Bilal’s events, his aim is to facilitate discussion between people on topics that are incredibly meaningful, but aren’t being spoken about enough.
The first event tackled the issue of identity, and what identity means to you. A few days before the event, Bilal asked me this question. I’d never been asked this, nor even thought about it beforehand, so I couldn’t really give an answer.
I’m still struggling with a proper answer on this. I think of myself as a son, a brother, a friend, a business owner, a writer, a coach and as a British Asian. I believe they all mix and complement each other to form the identity that I associate myself with right now. Despite this, I know in a year’s time, some of these forms may be different.