The Problem With Buffering
The Art Of Saying No
- Do you really want to be here?
- What would be your ideal evening here?
- Are you enjoying the food and drink?
- How do you typically feel after these events?
- I’d rather have a chilled evening with just the people who actually matter.
- The ideal evening certainly wouldn’t be getting smashed, eating a ton and feeling like a wreck the next day.
- I didn’t really pay attention to the taste of the food and drink.
- I feel crap; low mood, unproductive and usually regret doing it.
The First Time I Said No
A Few Home Truths When Saying No
- You don’t lose friends because you took the responsibility to say no to something you don’t want. The ‘friends’ who ridicule you and make an issue of you saying no aren’t really your friends, and are only thinking of themselves. More likely in fact, they’re defecting their own insecurities onto you.
- Food, drink and experiences will always come and go; there will always be another time to try ‘X’ – especially if your goal is to live a lifestyle solution.
- Your first no will feel like the world has stopped, and everyone has their eyes on you. But that’s your head and perception playing tricks on you.
- Nobody has ever lived a lifestyle solution trying to fit into other people’s perceptions, rules and ways of living.
- The more you say no to the things you don’t want, the more times you can say yes to the real things you want to do.
Say No with Graceful Conviction
When To Say No
- Does it align with my highest priorities and values?
- Does it make me feel good?
- Does it link to my why, and my why behind my why?
- Will I really enjoy it?
- Will I regret it after?
- Is it truly worth it?